We, mothers, have one thing in common and that is our unconditional love we have for our children. The way we raise them is unique from one parenting style to another. My siblings and I were raised by mom differently since we have different attitudes. Even if she has different strategies, we grow up just the way she wanted us to be. Happy and ready to have our own families.
I, as a mother, should determine what kind of parenting style to use for my son. I cannot use uninvolved and authoritarian parenting at the same time. It will only cause confusion to my son. I can use all the four parenting styles but NOT at the same time. I can be permissive in the first 5 years of my son’s life then authoritative for the next 10 to 15 years of his life and lastly uninvolved parenting for this phase of his life is that he’s already able to decide for himself and he knows what he wants in his life.
My strategy in raising my son is influenced by different factors. It is certainly influenced by how I was raised then the other factors came from the culture, time, values and beliefs that I have. I am raising my son in a totally different environment. We were in a very crowded and noisy environment, not much electronics gadgets so we play outside with our neighbors. Today, Elijah has his own iPad, can use our laptop, can have the access to the internet and cable channels. In this case, I cannot raise my son exactly just how I was raised. We live in different generations and if I have to raise Elijah just like before, he may end up disliking me. I may get some of the strategies my mom used which I think will be beneficial for raising my own son.
Our financial status may also greatly affect how we are going to raise our kids but whatever factor they may be, let us make sure that our kids will be ready to face life’s challenges when they are old enough to understand things.